Embrace
Independence
1. Be young and free while you can. Move across the country with a band. Sleep in a Walmart parking lot on a road trip,
preferably under the stars and not in a car.
After surviving this, you will be able to do anything.
2. Use every car ride when you are alone as an
opportunity to brush up on karaoke. Travel
often in order to just sing along with your playlist. Don’t worry; the other drivers aren’t looking
at you, they are just jealous of your mad singing skills.
3.
Use hip phrases all the time, like “mad singing
skills.”
4.
Learn to cook and cook well! Take the time to cook dinner and treat yourself to nice food. Either it A) Won’t
hurt your chances in finding a significant other, or B) You’ll at least be eating good
food while alone! Or invite friends to share.
6.
Go organic.
Planning meals is hard, going organic is harder, but it is worth it in
the long run and very satisfying in the grocery store line.
7.
When sick……forget cooking organically and eat Scooby
Doo macaroni. It’s okay.
8. Work hard at work. When you are there, try hard, develop skills
you will use the rest of your life and in other areas of life.
9.
Play hard.
Forget everything at work and relax.
Separate your career and down time.
Don’t let either one fully dictate your life. A job is just a job, and a hobby is just a
hobby.
10.
Know your passions and follow them.
11.
Be independent.
You must be in order to survive as a single female so embrace it.
12.
Don’t be too independent, guys are intimidated
by this. Go for the guy who this does
not intimidate and values this in you. Respect
him in return.
Friends
13.
Have friends who have long beards. This will help bring a sense of security to the
long road trips where you end up stuck in Walmart parking lots overnight. Others will be scared of you rather than you
of them.
14.
Take time to develop friendships. Deepen relationships with your girlfriends
and make sure to have girl nights. Go
out on the town with the girls or stay in and watch movies. PS I Love you and a
box of tissues is a great option.
15.
Hang out with married friends. See what a relationship is REALLY like. Each relationship will show you how different
every one is and how hard a relationship must be worked on.
16.
Family is important. Cherish relationships with parents and
siblings.
17.
Kids. Play with nieces, nephews and godsons when
they are around. They are only young for
so long and unless you plan on being married, they may be the only ones around
for quite some time. Give hugs, teach
them how to blow kisses, and make farting noises on their belly buttons. It never gets old.
18.
Start dance parties with toddlers. They are the BEST dancers. Make sure you tell them they are the best as
often as possible!
Feelings
19.
Feel emotions and feel them deeply.
Have your heart broken, but love anyways, even if he doesn’t know you
exist. Know that no matter what, it will all be okay.
20.
Love is awful!
Make “F” you Fudge when he decides not to love you. Do so while baking Christmas cookies with the
girls and make sure to cry hysterically and try to cover it. Salty tears make the best cookies.
21.
Love is great! Always hope for love and never give up, even if you don't find someone. Get over the men who didn’t work out. It wasn’t meant to be. Suppress any emotions when liking a guy who
does not like you in return. It’s not
worth it. Don’t change to be something you
think they want rather than who you are.
22.
Get very angry at God for not knowing best who
you should be with, even though you have told Him repeatedly. This goes over really well…..or not. Realize after arguing with God, that He
really does know best. After this
argument you will be able to move forward in life confidently. Be continually
thankful that these relationships did NOT work out. Thank God He knows best!
23.
Being single is awful when you think you know who
you should be with. Especially if it
happens a couple different times. Trust
that God knows better than you. It develops
a strength that is incomparable to anything else.
24.
Be thankful you are single. Mourn that you are single. Know that when you are married you will
probably do the same about being married!
25.
Kiss men only worth kissing. Toads don’t REALLY make princes.
26.
Respect men.
Being an independent woman does not mean you “Do what you want”. Give men the respect they deserve, just as
much as you desire to be treated like a lady.
27.
Appreciate being treated like a lady. It’s rare and if it is not encouraged then
men will forget how to do it. Stop
dreaming of Disney princesses while proclaiming feminism. It sends mixed signals.
28.
Say yes to dates when asked. Give men chances to woo you. If you overanalyze how the relationship would
go you may miss out on a really good thing.
29.
Don’t say yes to dates if you know that it will
never ever go anywhere. Save yourself
the heartaches.
30.
Sometimes, single is better than being in the
wrong relationship.
31.
Love when you’re ready not when you’re lonely. Knowing how to be alone is a key part of
knowing how to love. Not everyone who is
single is lonely, and not everyone in a relationship is happy. Fill loneliness
with friends and getting to know other people.
Develop social skills.
32.
Maybe happy endings don’t end with a guy. And that is okay. Life is a continual journey, never get to the
point where you think you are at your happy ending, or you’ll become stagnant. A happy ending will involve dying, and meeting God face to face.
33.
Don’t become a jaded female against men. Earn
a man’s respect; they deserve it most of the time and it is much more attractive then placing other
men’s faults on them.
34.
God doesn’t guarantee a husband and family, in
fact, sometimes, it is just the opposite and He will use you in your
singleness. Do not waste the single
years longing for something and waiting for life to start. Start your life long before a relationship
starts and know who you are.
Beauty
35.
Know what real beauty is. Be intelligent, be yourself, and be
real.
36.
Come to terms with the fact that you will always
see airbrushed magazines of skinny models that don’t really look like that in
real life. Real, breathing, confident
women, will always be more attractive.
Life
37.
Give back to others. Financially, volunteering, and in any way you
can. Don’t take anything for granted. Enjoy
life and giving to others when able.
38.
Read. Read
books on spirituality, being single, being married, inspirational books,
depressing books, mysteries, biographies.
Read a lot, and learn to form your own opinion rather than relying on
others or authors. Develop critical
thinking. Know your core beliefs in
order to build on them.
39.
Read inspirational quotes. They’re inspirational.
40.
Don’t read inspirational quotes that may be false,
such as popular ones like: “I’m Single: Because God is writing the best love
story for me.” Sometimes, God is doing much more than that.
41.
Say what you mean to say. Give good advice when people ask for it and
be known for giving sound advice.
42.
Don’t give advice! Sometimes, you are wrong. Sometimes, others are not ready to hear advice
when they ask and it is better for them to discover it for themselves. Ask leading questions so that they figure it
out on their own. Decipher if they really want advice, or just a listening ear. There is a difference.
43.
Overanalyze and always improve.
44.
Don’t overanalyze. Just do Something! If you overanalyze too much you will never do
anything.
45.
Never leave the house in sweats. You never know when you will meet an amazing
man or a nemesis.
46.
Don’t have a nemesis.
47.
If you’re lucky enough to be different, don’t
ever change.
48.
Try new things.
Learn things from YouTube! Sew an apron, learn how to use nunchucks,
learn how to decorate cakes, learn how to do the weird things in life that
everyone secretly wishes they knew how to do.
Don’t tell people you know how to do them and then bust out the talents
when least expected.
49.
Go new places and travel. Go hiking through caves, boating, camping, try new
restaurants and order something you wouldn’t make yourself.
50.
You will never know what life has in store, and
cannot make a list of dos and don’ts.
Every day is different. Some
things that are dos at one time in life, are don’ts at other times. Never make a list of things you have learned for others and then blog about it. You may not be right on everything, or they could be misinterpreted.
51. Being single isn't something to just "survive", just as much as being married isn't something to just "survive". Embrace life, work on it, and make the best out of whatever relationship status you are in.
52.
Love God as much as possible. Don't worry about the "Date God" or "Married to God" spiritual fads that go around. Learn about Him
and who He really is. Realize that
nothing else in life is important other than knowing Him. Develop a strong relationship with Him and come what may, married or unmarried, life will go on and will be better either way. Ignore the rest of the
above list.
